Nicole DeNoyers | Doula

I a University of Vermont trained end-of-life doula serving southwestern Vermont and eastern New York. I also hold a BA/MA in Forensic Psychology, which shaped my steady approach to complex emotional situations.

Compassion, choice, and empowerment guide everything I do.

Before this work, I spent years in strategic business planning and problem solving. That grounding shapes how I approach this work now: helping you understand what’s ahead — what the dying process can actually look like — so you’re not caught off guard and can see the choices available to you as things change.

That career also let me buy and run my dream café in Woodstock, Vermont in 2019 — just before COVID. I guided it through the pandemic and sold it in 2023. It taught me how to stay focused and calm when the future is uncertain.

My family has shown me several sides of both dying and our healthcare system. My sister died after years of struggling against our healthcare and disability systems, as much as her illness. My mother’s death was different — a natural one, from cancer, well-supported by hospice. My father, meanwhile, wanted access to Medical Aid in Dying and didn’t have it: choice denied, then struggle. Together, these experiences taught me how differently people are met by our healthcare system and how much that shapes the choices in front of them.

After selling the café, I became a hospice volunteer and got involved in community education. That path led me to the University of Vermont for doula and grief training. As I got more involved, people kept asking about Medical Aid in Dying — leading me to Patient Choices Vermont, where I learned to help people considering Medical Aid in Dying and the loved ones supporting them. From there, I completed the doula and clinician training series through the Academy of Aid-in-Dying Medicine, deepening that understanding further.

Outside of work, I recharge in nature, through cooking and sharing food, gardening, reading, traveling, and time with my family — human and otherwise.

Additional training: Vermont Ethics Network’s Advance Care Planning Training Series